Maybe he already is telling you something. Just not with words.

We get our point across in many ways.

  • A quick glance to let a friend know not to say something.
  • A facial expression to communicate disappointment. Pointing to a preferred item when we have laryngitis.
  • Grabbing someone’s hand when we are scared.
  • Handing your spouse the bottle that you cannot open while continuing to talk about other things.

These ways of communicating are all without words. We are not talking but we are conveying a meaning.

Help your child get his point across. Interpret his non-verbal communication.

  • If he hands you the remote control, does he want to watch TV?
  • If he throws himself on the floor, maybe he doesn’t want to eat the broccoli.
  • If he walks to the cabinet where the popcorn is kept then looks at you, give him the popcorn.
  • If he grabs your hand and starts walking, see where he leads you. Then do what you think he wants.

By responding to your child’s communication attempts , you will help him to become an effective communicator.  Once you know what he wants, him a word or two to express his thoughts.  He doesn’t have to say it, but will benefit from hearing the models of what he should say.

Give it a try, you will decrease the tears and increase the good times that you have together.